Release on 2005-04-05 | by Byron Katie,Michael Katz
How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead
Author: Byron Katie,Michael Katz
Category: Family & Relationships
In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love—Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection. The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative skills—how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be something we aren’t. This approach doesn’t work. It leaves millions of walking wounded—those who, having failed to find love or appreciation, blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love. I Need Your Love—Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most—the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover’s tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you’ve based your whole life on—and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness. “Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by love—seeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore. This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” —Byron Katie
Where do we find the relationships that matter in our second adulthood? Susanne Braun Levine, author of Inventing the Rest of Our Lives, anwers these questions with charming wit, experience, and intrigue in How We Love Now, with a new introduction by the author. Today, women in their fifties, sixties, and seventies are defining a totally new love narrative. Whether they are already experiencing intimacy—and great sex!—or longing to, these women are discovering unparalleled freedom and joy. Continuing Suzanne Braun Levine’s ongoing conversation with women in Second Adulthood, How We Love Now draws on her interviews with women across the country. Some are finding new relationships—with younger men, other women, or rediscovered childhood sweethearts—while others are enriching longstanding ones. (Of course, the Internet has opened up a new world of opportunities.) Their funny, heart-wrenching, and inspiring stories prove that this pioneering generation of women is continuing to take risks—and enjoying life more than ever.
“The manual for the nuts and bolts of relating that should be handed out at birth!” Heart of Relating invites you to take part in the growing movement towards communicating beyond your ego and persona, by learning the art of relating from the heart of who you are. Based on Eckhart Tolle’s words – “If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place” – Heart of Relating explores Carmella B’Hahn’s ‘inside-out’ and ‘outside-in’ paradigms of relating to help you recognise where you are and where you want to be. Learning to relate from the heart of who you are – from the inside out. Written in 52 different sections – one for each week of the year – the powerful stories, quotes and transformative practices can be used to help build the skills needed for daily life. With so many books targeted at specific aspects of relationships – love, marriage, conflict resolution, etc. – Heart of Relatingcan help you with multiple aspects of relating, not only with primary relationships, but also with family, friends, colleagues and especially yourself. Aimed at giving you a conscious communication toolbox for life, this holistic book can be used as a structured course or as a resource that you can dip into when you need it most. Couples, friends, families and groups can use it to support each other, and therapists and teachers can use it as a handbook to support clients and students.
the path to self-acceptance and happiness in relationships
Author: Jan Geurtz
In Addicted to Love, Jan Geurtz clearly demonstrates how our search for love and approval stems from a fundamental self-rejection. We try to compensate for this by seeking other people’s appreciation. But this is counterproductive: it actually makes us more insecure and therefore increasingly dependent. This creates an addiction to love, approval and the security of a relationship. As a result, most romantic relationships eventually fail, or – perhaps even worse – are reduced to dreary co-existence with little room for growth and happiness. With humour and practical examples, Jan Geurtz shows a way out of this vicious circle. Once we have let go of self-rejection, we find that our painful emotions, and also our sexual desires, are the gateway to a state of being that is completely free of restriction and dependence, and is filled with love and clarity – with or without a relationship. Jan Geurtz has written several books on addictions, including the bestseller Quit Smoking in One Day. He studied remedial pedagogy, education sciences and philosophy of science, and is inspired by Buddhism.
Your journey toward long-lasting happiness begins here. In just ten steps, Dr. Michael B. Brown provides a clear path through a discipline of daily loving that will lead you to purpose and joy in life. Follow these steps to bring meaning to your home, romantic relationships, workplace, personal friendships, and your own sense of self.
Simple Charms and Practical Tips for Creating a Harmonious Home
Author: Tess Whitehurst
Pubpsher: Llewellyn Worldwide
Category: Body, Mind & Spirit
Let your home nourish your soul and uplift your spirits. Swirl magical botanicals into your cleaning supplies, call fairies into your garden, ask a spider for advice. Clear clutter for clarity, perform the oatmeal cookie ritual for abundance, or make a sweet dreams charm for a good night's sleep. In this delightful book, intuitive counselor Tess Whitehurst reveals how your home can be a powerful catalyst for personal transformation and manifestation. She offers a variety of simple, whimsical ways to create a harmonious home while enhancing your own happiness, intuition, and magical power. Praise: "Filled with valuable information and ancient wisdom to activate sparkling energy and create true sacred space in your home. I recommend it!"—Denise Linn, author of Sacred Space
Do you have trouble praying? Do you get easily disconcerted? Aggravated? Depressed? Stressed? Anxious? Do you have low self-esteem? Lack a sense of self-worth and self-acceptance? Do you feel socially inadequate? Are you having problems loving and being loved? Do you feel disillusioned in your marriage? Lonely in your single life? Are you bored with the routine of your daily living and relating? With stories, both inspirational and humorous, references to Scripture, movies, novels, TV programs as well as to religious leaders and the works of spiritual writers, the author draws you into the intimacy of the life of the Trinity dwelling within you and you within the Indwelling Trinity. In this dynamism, the world of mystical experience opens up to you and lures you in.
Pubpsher: Hampton Roads Publishing Company Incorporated
Category: Political Science
"Rosen and Rippe use wit and insight to highlight the transformation from an upside-down to a right-side up world. The Flip offers interviews and wisdom from leading thinkers and visionaries, including Oscar Arias, Paul Ray, John Gray, Ed Begley Jr., andDr. Christiane Northrup, who illuminate the influential shifts in our corporations, media, politics, food, medicine, and beliefs"--Provided by publisher.
Release on 2005 | by Melvil Dewey,Richard Rogers Bowker,L. Pylodet,Charles Ammi Cutter,Bertine Emma Weston,Karl Brown,Helen E. Wessells
Author: Melvil Dewey,Richard Rogers Bowker,L. Pylodet,Charles Ammi Cutter,Bertine Emma Weston,Karl Brown,Helen E. Wessells
Includes, beginning Sept. 15, 1954 (and on the 15th of each month, Sept.-May) a special section: School library journal, ISSN 0000-0035, (called Junior libraries, 1954-May 1961). Also issued separately.
Then I looked him in the eyes and said. "Remember this Tommy. There is always something. If you can,t find it just know there is no such thing as bad luck or accident. All is Gods will. There is always something. Ask God. Know always, God helps." Yes, I know the answer to Tommys question. I accepted it initially without doubt. Gods heavenly spirit flows out into us all, with the truth. The Mystical experience will lead to the making of a new generation of Great Grandmasters. They will be Christ bearers, to the world in the future. Tommy must carry on. It was so ironic that Tommys father had been a top-notch policeman. Then Tommy had to watch his mother being killed by a policeman. What meaning, psychic or otherwise could I get from it? I guess the answer to that might lie in the fact that God is concerned about making our souls perfect. Tommy would need to gain the faith to make his limitations become possibilities and turn his fears into unconditional love. Years ago, I was training Tommys father, in martial arts and he asked me to ride with him from midnight till 8 AM. He was the only sheriffs deputy in the county, of 500 square miles, on the road. It was not like today when you dont pull up on a dangerous situation without backup. Bar fights, domestics, robberies, and what ever, you responded to alone. The tactics that Tommys father used, would get him fired today. We got a call that a boy had a gun and was shooting up a small town that had no police protection. Tommys father turned on his flashers and started to respond to the call. I could tell by the way he was driving that he was using his intuitive talents. All at once he hit the brakes, and pulled the car to the side of the road. He said. "You drive." I was not a sheriffs deputy and did not have any right to drive that vehicle. Tommys father wouldve been fired if the Sheriff found out. I drove, and he meditated. I knew Tommys father was heading for trouble not just by disobeying the rules, but also if anything went wrong, no one would believe his story. Tommys father would never be able to explain that he was using his sixth sense to link with the higher realms of perception, and God Almighty. He must have read my mind. He said to me. "I have to try to save that boys life! I am receiving an energy that is higher in vibration and totally spiritual. God Almighty has a reason for that boy to live." He picked up my coat that was laying in the back seat and put it on, covering his uniform. The boy was last seen on Main Street in the downtown area. Tommys dad directed me to turn and drive towards the school. As I did it came over the radio. Someone shot back at the kid, from an upstairs window. The kid ran towards the school. As we got close to the school Tommys father jumped out of the cruiser and ran towards the playground area. I followed on foot. I know that most people will not believe what Im about to say. Before the end of the story youll understand how this happened, because Tommy is so much like his dad, in reaching into the depths of the unknown. The boy pointed the gun at Tommys father. Tommys father said. "Im on your side. I come to fight the evil." The boy raised the gun pointing it. He fired over Tommys fathers left shoulder. Tommys father was walking towards the kid and did not stop. He said in a loving voice. "You got it! Put the gun down, your safe." Tommys father was staring into the eyes of the kid as he continued to walk towards him. The boy handed the gun to him. Tommys father placed his hand on the kids shoulder. I could see the healing energy of Ki or Spirit transfer to the young boy. We walked back to the cruiser, and the boy said, crying. "I dont know what happened. All I